Maid of Honor Advice
Small Ways to be a Better Maid of Honor
Even if, like most people, you're very busy with full social, work, family, and personal lives, there are still some small things you can do to be a better maid of honor. You have some major maid of honor responsibilities you will need to find time for. Besides that, however, there are a lot of ways to make the bride as happy as can be without quitting your job or giving up on any chance of a non-wedding social life.
The following suggestions are designed to show the bride you care and to make her wedding experience great while still leading a full non-maid of honor life.
Call the bride, telephone the bride, and call the bride again. This is one of the simplest and best things you can do for the bride. Listen to her triumphs and heartbreaks as she plans the wedding. Your most important role is to be a sympathetic, caring ear. Call, call, call the bride!
Another very smart trick is for the maid of honor to make friends with the mother of the bride early on and include her in the bridal shower and other planning (if the mother of the bride would like). This has two advantages. First, the mother of the bride is usually delighted to be included (which should make her nag the bride less). And second, the bride will most likely be touched that you went out of your way to befriend her mother.
If the bride sounds particularly stressed out, why not make her day by sending her flowers? This can also be a great thing for the maid of honor to do a few weeks before the wedding with a card celebrating, "x days until the wedding."
The maid of honor should enlist the other bridesmaids to help with everything from bridesmaid dress shopping with the bride to bridal shower and bachelorette party planning. I can't say this one enough! You may have already seen this particular piece of advice elsewhere on our website, but that's because it's so vital to a successful (and less stressful and time-consuming) maid of honor experience.
If you're really strapped for time, there's always the time-friendly option of getting online help with your maid of honor speech. I personally recommend Instant Wedding Toasts because they will help make sure the speech is personalized for the bride and groom.
My final piece of advice is to make sure you do continue to live your own life. Don't let your maid of honor responsibilities force you to put your own life on hold for six to twelve months! The bride would never want (or should never want!) you to sacrifice your own life, just to contribute a piece of it.